Magickal Love Advice
Have you ever been in love? Really in love? Do you feel that love now? Is that person cherishing you and considering you as a priority? What do you love about him or her? Why do you respect them? What are your needs and are they being met? Do they call you enough? Is the communication good? Is the person available? If not, do you have a convincing justification for why that is okay? Can you answer these questions? How many are yes's?
Of course, every relationship, no matter how fine, has a couple of problems. The issues revolve around how hard you have to work to make the relationship work. It doesn't have to be vastly difficult. To be loved, you don't have to get yelled at. Love means never having to be struck or beaten. You don't have to carry the entire weight of the relationship. If you are with someone who is like that, they don't have to change - your relationship does, however. Either you both need to communicate your needs and create mutual consideration - or you may have to let go. Like the Tower card, change and/or leveling the faulty foundation is necessary so a better foundation can be built.
LOVE IS
Of course, every relationship, no matter how fine, has a couple of problems. The issues revolve around how hard you have to work to make the relationship work. It doesn't have to be vastly difficult. To be loved, you don't have to get yelled at. Love means never having to be struck or beaten. You don't have to carry the entire weight of the relationship. If you are with someone who is like that, they don't have to change - your relationship does, however. Either you both need to communicate your needs and create mutual consideration - or you may have to let go. Like the Tower card, change and/or leveling the faulty foundation is necessary so a better foundation can be built.
LOVE IS
- Not wondering (if he or she will call, loves you, etc.)
- Not feeling bad (unless it's a temporary thing about which you have to talk. Things do come up.) an experience which brings out the best in you. Love will make you feel & act better.
- Communicating openly and honestly (we often want people to be honest with us, but are we being honest with them? Even if you can justify why you are bending the truth to your lover, you are not being honest. The way you are sets the tone. They will never be honest as long as you are not. If you are not free to be truthful, maybe he or she is not the one for you.
- Understanding they are a different person with different styles of expression. These styles may not be the same as yours.
- Understanding they are not going to change. Can you accept them as they are?
- Wanting to be faithful without pressure or rules.
- Paying attention to each other and being partners. The definition of being a team will be different for each person. Be sure to talk about it.